It goes without saying, on this momentous occasion, that the groom and groomsmen typically wear a boutonniere at weddings. There are exceptions to this, especially if the groom is wearing a military; in which case I typically see no boutonnieres for the groom or groomsmen.
Wearing boutonnieres at weddings is a symbolic gesture that represents the importance of your big day, the regard you have for your male guests, and how honored you are that they have joined in your celebration. They deserve to look handsome and dashing, and a buttonhole is the perfect way to help in that area. So it makes sense according to etiquette that not only the groom and groomsmen are deserving of boutonniere, but others as well,
You don't want to realize the day of your wedding that you forgot a boutonniere for someone special! Etiquette helps guide us by taking a look all the potential candidates that might wear a boutonniere on your big day.
According to wedding etiquette, these are the recommended people you may want to wear a boutonniere!
The first group of guys you should strongly consider for boutonnieres after the groom and groomsmen are the :
Ring Bearer
Fathers
Grandfathers
Another kind gesture is to extend boutonnieres to stepfathers and step grandfathers. Does your mother or grandmother have a male companion without the nuptials? If yes, consider including them as well, as Grandma will typically be more hurt than her companion that he was left out.
Other Guests to Consider for Boutonnieres
Who else may you invite to wear a boutonniere at your wedding? We'll give you a few more to consider. And whether this is etiquette or the love in your heart that drives your decisions, you and your fiancé can decide how far and wide you want to take this wedding tradition. Here are some other considerations:
Close family or friends that are helping with music, vocals or doing a reading
The Officiant
A Godfather, or a dear Uncle with whom who share special memories.
Let's Look at Tips for Selecting Flowers for Wedding Boutonnieres
After making your decision as to who wears bouts at your wedding, what flowers may you want in the various bouts? The guys boutonnieres show up in a few key photos for your big day, second only to the girls’ bouquets for flower photos that make their way into your wedding album. Give them the attention they deserve, with intricate details, textures, and color to match your overall theme. Here are some common approaches to deciding flower selections for the wedding boutonniere for the guys:
1. The groom and groomsmen boutonnieres typically reflect flowers and foliage found in the girls' bouquet, usually one or two of the smaller flowers as it needs to fit on their lapel or suspender.
2. The groom's boutonniere is typically a bit showier than the rest of the men that have been singled out for a buttonhole. It might be a more expensive flower, or larger in size, or both!
3. The ring bearer gets an age appropriate buttonhole for the day. If they are very small (1-2 years of age) I usually suggest a silk flower, only because I feel they are less likely to try and eat it! And of course, most ring bearer boutonnieres are smaller than the groomsmen.
4. The remaining guests (fathers, etc.) that will be wearing boutonnieres can either match the groomsmen bouts or be further simplified to set the bridal party apart from other distinguished guests.
5. If you are leaning towards roses for the guys buttonholes, I recommend spray roses over standard roses. Yes, they are smaller, but feel that they offer more character when worked in with other flowers. They are also less likely to get bumped around, bruised, and beaten up during the day due to hugs, dancing, and other boisterous events.
6. My favorite last suggestion is to include lots of fine, intricate flowers and foliage in the boutonnieres, as this will add interest, textures, and colors to enhance their attire.
Have fun selecting the perfect items for the guys’ boutonnieres! We can also help you get up to speed on How To Pin On A Boutonniere.
Best wishes for a beautiful wedding, filled with moments and memories with family and friends as you start your new life together!
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